Come As You Are: Five Years Later

Five years after the death of his husband, G. Scott Graham thought he had equanimity. He thought he had made peace with his grief. But when a new love entered his life, everything shifted. The grief came back—different this time, disguised as hope, desire, and fear. And with it came a whole new set of questions: Can you open your heart again after unimaginable loss? Can you love fully when you know what love can cost?

Come As You Are: Five Years Later is not a guidebook. It’s not a “how-to” on healing. It’s a radically honest, soul-baring exploration of what it means to live after grief — and then grieve again when love returns.

Written in a voice that feels more like a conversation than a self-help book, this third installment in the Come As You Are series blends raw reflection, poetic storytelling, and hard-won insight. It’s part memoir, part diary, part meditation — and anchored by a practical, no-nonsense appendix for those navigating the messy reality of love after loss.

Inside, you’ll find:

·        A deeply personal narrative of falling in love again — and falling apart in the process

·       Insights into how grief reappears not just through loss, but through connection

·       Reflections on Vipassanā meditation, equanimity, and the near enemy of indifference

·       Exercises and tools grounded in Buddhist practice — but accessible to anyone in grief

·       A powerful reminder that healing isn’t linear, and presence is always a choice

If you've ever loved deeply and lost, if you're finding your way back to intimacy after heartbreak, or if you're navigating new connection while still carrying old grief — this book is for you.

Because grief doesn’t follow a timeline.

Love doesn’t erase loss.

And the heart, if you’re willing, keeps breaking open.