Come As You Are: Three Years Later
About this ebook
Three years have passed since the death of G. Scott Graham’s husband, Brian. Three years since that life-altering moment when everything changed. The world has moved on. Friends have stopped asking. And yet, the loss remains—quiet, persistent, woven into the fabric of everyday life.
Come As You Are: Three Years Later is not a guide to “getting over” grief—because grief isn’t something to be conquered. Instead, it’s a raw, unfiltered, and deeply personal exploration of what it really means to live with loss when the world expects you to have “moved on.”
A Journey Through Grief, Love, and What Comes Next
Told through a collection of deeply honest essays, this book challenges society’s myths about grief, exposing the platitudes, avoidance, and misplaced sympathies that leave so many grieving people feeling unseen and unheard. This is a book about grief as it really is—messy, ongoing, and deeply personal.
Inside, Graham shares:
· What to Say to Someone Who’s Grieving – And why most people get it painfully wrong.
· The Reality of Support (or Lack Thereof) – How even well-meaning friends and family often disappear too soon.
· Grief & Emotional Intelligence – Why developing self-awareness and empathy is crucial—for both the grieving and those who support them.
· The Truth About ‘Healing’ – Why grief isn’t an illness, doesn’t have a timeline, and doesn’t need to be “fixed.”
· Personal Stories of Love & Loss – From unexpected reminders of the past to navigating life’s biggest changes alone.
Through it all, Graham weaves together personal experience, raw emotion, and sharp insight to create a book that speaks directly to those who are grieving—and those who want to support them but don’t know how.
More Than a Book—A Voice for Those Who Still Grieve
If you’ve ever lost someone and felt like no one truly understands… If you’ve ever been told, “You need to move on” when your heart wasn’t ready… If you’ve ever struggled to find the right words to comfort someone in their loss…
Come As You Are: Three Years Later is for you.
This is not just a book about grief. It is a book about being human.
Because grief doesn’t end. And we shouldn’t have to face it alone.
About the author
G. Scott Graham is an existential handyman — fixing what’s broken, realigning what’s off-kilter, and helping people rebuild their lives with meaning, purpose, and the occasional strip of duct tape. He’s also an author, career coach, business coach, and psychedelic support coach based in Boston, Massachusetts.
Scott is driven to help clients follow their “true azimuth” — a direction distinct from “true north.” It’s not about chasing some universal ideal. It’s about identifying what genuinely matters to you. It’s about recognizing the forces that pull your life off course and learning how to adjust so you still arrive where your heart wants to go. When you're 90 and looking back, your life should feel like it was truly yours — filled with pride, purpose, and meaning. No regrets.
When he’s not coaching people to be their very best, Scott runs a nonprofit farm animal rescue and lives what he teaches. He does Tough Mudders, teaches Sun 73 Tai Chi, paddleboards with his dogs Groot and Rocket, and camps in State Parks across New England whenever he can. His daily spiritual practice is grounded in anāpānasati, vipassanā, and mettā-bhāvanā meditation. A firm believer in service as the heart of a life well-lived, Scott also volunteers as an EMT instructor, firefighter, and Master Gardener in his community.
In his "free time," he writes books.
