Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief
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Grief is Not a Problem to Fix—It’s an Experience to Embrace
Loss changes everything. When someone we love dies, we are thrown into a world that no longer makes sense. Well-meaning friends offer clichés. Society expects us to “move on.” But grief isn’t something to get over—it’s something to live with, carry forward, and integrate into who we are.
In Come As You Are: Meditation & Grief, G. Scott Graham offers a raw, unfiltered, and deeply personal exploration of grief—woven with the power of meditation to provide guidance, clarity, and peace.
This is not a book about “healing.” It does not offer a step-by-step grief recovery plan. Instead, it is a collection of essays, reflections, and meditation practices that invite you to sit with your grief, honor your loss, and discover what it means to carry love forward.
A Unique Approach: Merging Meditation & Grief
Through powerful storytelling and practical meditation techniques, this book explores:
· Why Grief is a Gift – Challenging the myths of “stages” and timelines, Graham reveals how grief is an ongoing, transformative experience.
· What Not to Say to Someone Who is Grieving – A blunt, eye-opening critique of common phrases that do more harm than good.
· How to Support a Grieving Person – Beyond empty platitudes, this book teaches you how to show up, listen, and truly be there.
· Meditation for Grief – Three powerful meditation practices—Ānāpāna, Vipassanā, and Mettā—designed to help grievers cultivate presence, equanimity, and self-compassion.
· Personal Reflections & Journal Entries – A rare, unedited look at the author’s own grief journey, written over the first months of loss, providing deep validation and connection for those who feel alone in their grief.
More Than a Book—A Companion Through Grief
If you are grieving, this book will remind you that you are not alone, you are not broken, and you don’t need to be "fixed." If you want to support someone in grief, it will help you understand what real support looks like.
With honesty, wisdom, and unflinching authenticity, Graham offers a radically different way to approach grief—one that acknowledges its pain, honors its presence, and makes space for love, loss, and meditation to coexist.
Come as you are. Grieve as you need. This book will meet you there.
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About the author
G. Scott Graham is an existential handyman — fixing what’s broken, realigning what’s off-kilter, and helping people rebuild their lives with meaning, purpose, and the occasional strip of duct tape. He’s also an author, career coach, business coach, and psychedelic support coach based in Boston, Massachusetts.
Scott is driven to help clients follow their “true azimuth” — a direction distinct from “true north.” It’s not about chasing some universal ideal. It’s about identifying what genuinely matters to you. It’s about recognizing the forces that pull your life off course and learning how to adjust so you still arrive where your heart wants to go. When you're 90 and looking back, your life should feel like it was truly yours — filled with pride, purpose, and meaning. No regrets.
When he’s not coaching people to be their very best, Scott runs a nonprofit farm animal rescue and lives what he teaches. He does Tough Mudders, teaches Sun 73 Tai Chi, paddleboards with his dogs Groot and Rocket, and camps in State Parks across New England whenever he can. His daily spiritual practice is grounded in anāpānasati, vipassanā, and mettā-bhāvanā meditation. A firm believer in service as the heart of a life well-lived, Scott also volunteers as an EMT instructor, firefighter, and Master Gardener in his community.
In his "free time," he writes books.
