First Love: Essays on Friendship

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AΒ β€œvivid, thoughtful and nuanced collection of essays” (Associated Press)Β that treats women’s friendships as the love stories they truly are, from the critically acclaimed author of Negative Space

β€œA tender, unswerving homage to her found family, but also an insightful study of friendship as identity-crafting.”—Elle

Lilly Dancyger always thought of her closest friendships as great loves, complex and profound as any romance. When her beloved cousin was murdered just as both girls were entering adulthood, Dancyger’s devotion to the women in her life took on a new urgencyβ€”a desire to hold her friends close while she still could. In First Love, this urgency runs through a striking exploration of the bonds between women, from the intensity of adolescent best friendship and fluid sexuality to mothering and chosen family.

Each essay in this incisive collection is grounded in a close female friendship in Dancyger’s life, reaching outward to dissect cultural assumptions about identity and desire, and the many ways women create space for each other in a world that wants us small. Seamlessly weaving personal experience with literature and pop cultureβ€”ranging from fairy tales to true crime, from AnaΓ―s Nin and Sylvia Plath to Heavenly Creatures and the β€œsad girls” of Tumblrβ€”Dancyger’s essays form a kaleidoscopic story of a life told through friendships, and an expansive interrogation of what it means to love each other.

Though friendship will never be enough to keep us safe from the dangers of the world, Dancyger reminds us that love is always worth the risk, and that when tragedy strikes, it’s our friends who will help us survive. In First Love, these essential bonds get their due.

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Lilly Dancyger is the author of First Love: Essays on Friendship and Negative Space. She lives in New York City, and is a 2023 NYSCA/NYFA Artist Fellow in nonfiction from The New York Foundation for the Arts. She teaches creative nonfiction in the MFA programs at Columbia University and Randolph College, and her work has been published by The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Washington Post, Rolling Stone, Playboy, Elle, and more.

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