Aย โvivid, thoughtful and nuanced collection of essaysโ (Associated Press)ย that treats womenโs friendships as the love stories they truly are, from the critically acclaimed author of Negative Space
โA tender, unswerving homage to her found family, but also an insightful study of friendship as identity-crafting.โโElle
Lilly Dancyger always thought of her closest friendships as great loves, complex and profound as any romance. When her beloved cousin was murdered just as both girls were entering adulthood, Dancygerโs devotion to the women in her life took on a new urgencyโa desire to hold her friends close while she still could. In First Love, this urgency runs through a striking exploration of the bonds between women, from the intensity of adolescent best friendship and fluid sexuality to mothering and chosen family.
Each essay in this incisive collection is grounded in a close female friendship in Dancygerโs life, reaching outward to dissect cultural assumptions about identity and desire, and the many ways women create space for each other in a world that wants us small. Seamlessly weaving personal experience with literature and pop cultureโranging from fairy tales to true crime, from Anaรฏs Nin and Sylvia Plath to Heavenly Creatures and the โsad girlsโ of TumblrโDancygerโs essays form a kaleidoscopic story of a life told through friendships, and an expansive interrogation of what it means to love each other.
Though friendship will never be enough to keep us safe from the dangers of the world, Dancyger reminds us that love is always worth the risk, and that when tragedy strikes, itโs our friends who will help us survive. In First Love, these essential bonds get their due.
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